Yesterday was a good day for me.
I've done a lot of thinking about life lately, my life in particular. I've looked at my experience here in Georgia, and seen a lot of things I wish I had done differently.
Basically I'd say I've learned a lot.
My husband has been stationed here in Georgia for almost four years now. I would spend weekends here occasionally while we were dating, but he usually came down to see me (I was in Tallahassee at Florida State, way more fun). I finally moved here this past summer, so Georgia has been my home for about 7 months now.
And I have learned a lot.
Since I moved here I have complained a lot about this place.
I vow not to do that again, regardless of where we get stationed. Because you know what, life is what you make it.
I did not make the most of my time in Georgia. I can honestly say that.
There are a number of things that contribute to my lack of effort. Not excuses, just reasons why I think I didn't try to make the most of it.
Being a brand new military wife is tough, especially when you know nothing about the military. Until recently, my husband never planned on making the military his career, so I never bothered to learn. When we got married he had a year left of his enlistment, and I thought that was going to be it. I didn't look into military life much, I just knew they had taken my husband from me and sent him away for the 6 months before we got married. You could say I was a bit anti-military for a while. I just associated this career with deployments, with my husband being torn away from me for extended periods of time.
Since I have been here in Georgia, I haven't really made any friends. Some of the women I have met were just plain unfriendly (I don't understand this), and others I had zero in common with.
BUT I haven't tried that hard.
I never tried to get involved in anything. I didn't put myself out there. As we get older making friends becomes tougher, and requires much more effort than it did when we were younger.
After receiving orders this past winter to Italy, the plans for him to leave the military changed. We decided to jump at the opportunity to live in Italy for a couple of years. So my husband re-enlisted for another 4 years.
Then, last month my husband discovered that he was a lot closer to finishing school than he had previously thought. Meaning, in about 2 years he could become an Officer. This then led into discussions about making the military his career.
Was I on board at first? No way.
My first reaction to ANYTHING is to freak out.
But, I calmed down and did a lot of thinking.
Not having any friends who are military spouses made things tough. I felt like an outsider, not knowing what I would be getting myself into.
The military blogging community saved me.
Reading the accounts of other women living this very unique lifestyle gave me a look into what my future could be like if my husband decided to make this a career.
It helped so much.
Learning how families make it work was really important to me.
My outlook on things has changed dramatically.
Yesterday I made my first friend here in Georgia.
I had a lovely coffee date with Jessica from Jesstagirl and Her Officer.
We are both stationed at the same base right now, and are both moving to Italy in the near future! Very exciting.
Talking to her was wonderful. It was so nice to be able to relate to someone.
Basically, I can't wait to get to a new base and start off fresh. I want to make the most of everything. I want to get involved, I want to volunteer, I want to make friends!
I have an entirely new attitude about everything, and I think this blogging community has had a lot to do with it.
Right now, it's looking like the military is going to be a part of our lives for quite some time.
And I am very optimistic about it.